The Components and Progression of Stockholm Syndrome
Following are the components of Stockholm Syndrome as they relate to abusive and controlling relationships. Common symptoms include:
- Victim having positive feelings toward the abuser
- Victim having negative feelings toward family, friends, or authorities
- Abuser having positive feelings toward the victim
- Victim supporting or helping the abuser
Following are several stages in the progression of Stockholm Syndrome:
- The victim dissociates from his or her pain, helplessness or terror by subconsciously beginning to see the situation / world from the abuser’s perspective. The victim begins to agree with the abuser and certain aspects of his or her own personality, opinions, and views will fade into the background.
- By doing this, the victim begins to learn how to appease and please the abuser, which may keep him or her from being hurt or worse. Similarly this tactic can be used to manipulate the abuser into being less dangerous, at least for a little while.
- After a while the victim begins to realize that his or her abuser portrays the same human characteristics as anyone else. At this point he or she will begin to see the abuser as less of a threat. Some abusers may even share personal information in an effort to bond with the victim and to promote pity rather than anger.
- This bonding, in turn, leads to conflicting feelings (e.g., rage and pity) and illogical concern for the abuser. The victim may even ignore his or her own needs.
- Once the traumatic event has ended, however, the victim must again learn not to dissociate from his or her emotions and not focus on the abuser. This can be a very difficult transition.
Four situations or conditions are present that serve as a foundation for the development of Stockholm Syndrome:
- Perceived or real threat to one’s physical or psychological survival and belief that the abuser will carry out the threat. The abuser may:
- Assure the victim that only cooperation keeps loved ones safe.
- Offer subtle threats or stories of revenge to remind the victim that revenge is possible if they leave.
- Have a history of violence leading the victim to believe they could be a target.
- Presence of a small kindness from the abuser to the victim
- In some cases, small gestures such as allowing a bathroom visit or providing food/water are enough to alter the victim’s perception of the abuser.
- Other times, a birthday card, a gift (usually provided after a period of abuse), or a special treat can be seen as proof that the abuser is not “all bad.”
- Victim’s isolation from other perspectives
- Victims have the sense they are always being watched. For their survival they begin to take on the abuser’s perspective. This survival technique can become so intense that the victim develops anger toward those trying to help.
- In severe cases of Stockholm Syndrome the victim may feel the abusive situation is their fault.
- Perceived or real inability to escape from the situation
- The victim may have financial obligations, debt, or instability to the point that they cannot survive on their own.
- The abuser may use threats including taking the children, public exposure, suicide, or a life of harassment for the victim.
AND IN CASE YOU MISSED IT:
NOW. NOT THAT THINGS HAVE TO BE SEXUAL. BUT IF SOMEONE SHOWED ME THOSE TWO PANELS AND ASKED ME IF I THOUGHT THIS WAS CLOSER TO A FUN BDSM SCENE OR A RAPE, I AM REASONABLY SURE THAT DOESN’T LOOK LIKE A FUN BDSM SCENE.
THIS HAS BEEN A PSA.
Update: Boys of Blur by N. D. Wilson is a really well done book and I’d recommend it. Tonally similar to Skellig in some ways but more action-y. Might describe more at a later point.
Going to try and answer messages at some point in the near future (including pms) and planning to post terribly upsetting comic panels. At job work now and when I get home I need to work my ass off for school stuff. So how much else I’ll get to do is up in the air.
Right now I’m reading an actual published book because a new cover is needed and I’m helping figure that out. The book is literary as hell and absolutely stunning and I’m liable to recommend you guys read once I’m done. AND it’s short, and easy to go through. I’m a slow reader and my progress is fast.
(But no seriously, I think the panels OB and I found might be some of the most upsetting things I’ve seen in a comic and I appreciate that a lot.)
To beckfromthedead: I hear ya haha. I’m actually a little divided/not sure I’m a fan of how Dmitri has been handled after Jenkins’ Webspinner’s arc though, tbh. I loooove seeing scary villains no question, and think Dmitri should get to be badass for sure, but IDK that I love the execution and timing as I’ve seen it.
XD I will 110% admit to being selective about what aspects of canon I run with and what I tend to discard. Different creative teams, different interpretations and all that. For me though, I think Dmitri seems more effective as a spy antagonist where deaths are avoided if possible (rambling explanation: Webspinner’s Peter mentioned that guns aren’t really Dmitri’s style, w/spy work it makes sense to me that avoiding detection is better so no deaths means people aren’t even aware he’d been there + opportunities to reuse or blame people in the future, and Dmitri seems to do method acting to some degree where he identifies a lot with his roles so I can buy him being reluctant to kill for those reasons… although if it comes down to self-preservation and/or completing a job he’s gonna kill) and his most impressive villainy could involve more psychological warfare and manipulation than violence or leading organized crime. Think that makes him stand out more compared to other villains and puts him on a more gray moral spectrum, which feels a bit more effective for him IMO. Generally speaking though I think the idea of him hiring himself out for spy work seems like it might make more sense and give room for more diverse missions and circumstances than him initiating everything, and it might make times when he does initiate things stand out more.
I also personally think he should have gotten the chance to be in charge and badass as hell following Kraven’s suicide, with any survival on Peter’s part being because of choices Dmitri made vs Peter smashing his way through shit lol. But instead it was Peter-totally-buys-that-his-parents-are-alive-again-that-sucker, with Harry going puppet master with the whole deal.
Post-Jenkins, as funny as the Aunt May/cookie incident was it kind of undermined Dmitri a lot. Then I’m also not sure if the psychological aftermath from the suicide attempt was fully explored. From what I’ve read the transition from the suicide attempt to acid-wielding, murderous maggia guy doesn’t fully translate. Idk if I just missed something though.
TL;DR: I think Dmitri being scary prob should come from mind games and playing up creepy stuff with doppelgängers and perceptions vs physical violence, and while I can see Spencer and a few other recent writers are going in a different direction in terms of how Dmitri operates as a villain IDK if that direction is for me. Totally feel free to disagree though haha.
Superior Foes has made a few "lol naughty" jokes aimed at Dmitri and Sergei. They're all visual gags, and you have to really know canon and some Russian to get them, but they're there. Dmitri signs his name "DK" and has a portrait of Sergei in his office. He's seen reading 50 Shades of Grey and having Twilight merch hanging on his wall. Aka books that glorify abusive relationships. .-.
YUP, PRETTY MUCH. DDD:
I’m so bummed because I generally like Nick Spencer’s writing, and some of the blurbs I’ve seen from Superior Foes look really cute and funny. I’ve skimmed through the first trade too. But omg not so thrilled with how it handles Dmitri. A lot of the time I get the sense that he’s reduced to a gimmick, the rest legitimately horrible stuff he deals with looks to me like it gets trivialized or poked fun of.
Like what I’ve seen of Shocker from there though.
To AZ: XDDDDDD Gotta go kinky or go home man. Ain’t no place for trauma, Everything can be sexy if you want it to be.
:| I now have three stories spanning many issues that prove, in canon, that Dmitri is suffering from severe Stockholm Syndrome with Kraven. Like, not even in any way that is remotely ambiguous at all. Everything short of saying verbatim “this is Stockholm” proves that it is…
Thanks—glad this all gels!
I actually think Kraven and the reasons he does everything he does is really interesting from a psychological standpoint, and I appreciate that if you don’t know the crap he does he seems charming…but hooooooly shit what he does is horrifying. And while what he did to Dmitri is the most extreme from what I’ve seen so far (and intensely methodological in order to shape him into something Kraven wants), Dmitri isn’t the only person he does shit to. I mean holy crap, Vermin alone.
Besides not knowing I think a lot of people tend to not take him seriously because his fashion is so hilariously terrible and he can be honestly funny/appear kind of noble at times. But those things don’t excuse what he does.
Anyway, while there’s a lot I think goes into it think what he does to Dmitri all comes dominance things, including possible rape. He sees the extent of his control and what he can get away with, wields the Stockholm symptoms to keep Dmitri in a state of terror/need for approval to obtain the perfect servant who is basically willing to do anything for him, and he creates the perfect prey counterpart. I mean Dmitri is all about stealth, if he tries to escape Kraven it’s going to be a challenge to catch him and Kraven likes challenges.
I completely agree on PTSD being a thing too, Dmitri canon dissociates and flashbacks hard as hell. I really might make a photoset later with examples of things. XD If I’m upset about a thing I want to make everyone upset about a thing.
:| I now have three stories spanning many issues that prove, in canon, that Dmitri is suffering from severe Stockholm Syndrome with Kraven. Like, not even in any way that is remotely ambiguous at all. Everything short of saying verbatim “this is Stockholm” proves that it is Stockholm. I looked up the symptoms in multiple places and I have specific points in the text that definitively show those exact symptoms and mindsets in ways that literally can’t be argued. And there are also multiple concrete moments in the text that prove without a shadow of a doubt that Kraven was kind of a sadistic torturer, that the effects of this were emotionally traumatic (like it is shown and explained outright, this is again not an ambiguous can-be-argued thing and I can cite text to prove it), and there are PTSD symptoms involved. And while it is more ambiguous in the sense that it could be argued, there are multiple specific poses and interactions that seem to suggest that things got rapey too. E.g. Dmitri getting pinned to the ground by who he thinks is Kraven, wrists restrained by Kraven character, dialogue kind of suggestive of that by the Kraven character, and Dmitri hysterical begging not to be hurt for the first and only time in the story despite getting into multiple fights with (and beaten by) stronger opponents. Including the guy he thinks is Kraven. That specific position sends him over the edge.
Meanwhile, there are folks who seem to be going lol Dmitri’s totally into that and has an exciting BDSM incest relationship with his brother. Naughty, naughty.
(Most) Tumblr users have not had proper medical training
Do not ask strangers for medical advice.
Talk to your doctor.
If you feel uncomfortable talking to your doctor, get a new fucking doctor, because they are there to help you with health issues.
Strangers on the internet do not know your medical history. Strangers on the internet are just that, strangers. They do not have any incentive to give you well-informed advice.
I think it’s actually really worth it to look at what tropes and trends come up in fanfiction honestly. Not that all fanfiction is quality or that there isn’t a lot of :/ stuff, but it’s a decent indicator of what people are looking for in stories IMO.